How To Stop Being So Offended

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Are you easily offended?⁣

⁣Many humans will go through their life with a relentless feeling of offense by what someone else 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮. ⁣

⁣But get this… ⁣

⁣No one offends you. ⁣

⁣It’s your 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 of 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵, and 𝘩𝘰𝘸 others 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 act that do. ⁣

⁣No shame here as most people are easily offended before they dig deep and do the “work”. Doing the work requires us to look at our unhelpful behaviors with a microscope and decide deterministically to shift your beliefs that drive behaviors. ⁣

⁣𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝘆𝗰𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆: ⁣

⁣That catecholamine rush when you discover someone isn’t acting in a way that you deem appropriate—>oppress another humans autonomy via verbal or physical force—>self aggrandize and signal virtues about your moral superiority. ⁣

⁣It’s a 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘺𝘤𝘭𝘦 of those who are easily offended. So watch yourself and others or this cyclical devolution.

For example: You expected your significant other to do the dishes after dinner. They didn’t and now you’re pissed. They aren’t a horrible partner, but rather your expectations of how a perfect partner 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 act is what is upsetting you. ⁣

⁣We are indoctrinated and conditioned via observed behaviors and messages from our environment, teachers, family, and media in general, on how life should play out. ⁣

⁣Where this goes sideways is no one was raised with the same set of beliefs, nor the same life experiences to shape their behaviors in a cookie cut fashion. ⁣We are all autonomous beings. ⁣

⁣What you think is being a 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 partner may not be the same for your significant other. ⁣

⁣𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆 𝗽𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲:

1.) Attempt to understand the source of your offenses.⁣

⁣2.) Express your needs and desires without attacking or placing blame.⁣

⁣3.) Accept people as they are, or change who you surround yourself with. All else is madness. We will never force anyone to see the world through our unique lens. ⁣

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